How is ostracism different from other forms of bullying? When does ostracizing or excluding someone from a group become part of bullying?
Ostracism is different from bullying because it means to isolate or exclude someone from a specific group or society, while bullying is when someone uses power to hurt or intimidate someone weaker. Ostracizing can becomes part of bullying when a person is trying to hurt or make the person believe he/she is weaker by excluding them.
1.What’s familiar about the incident Eve describes?
What's familiar about Eve's story is that I've been through this as well and it is very annoying and confusing when someone dislikes you for no reason at all. I've learned to evade those people and stick with my own friends.
2.What surprised you?
What surprised me the most was how frequently we try to make the 'populars' like us and try to blend in with them even though we never really liked them or the things they did, and soon we start forgetting who our true friends are. I say this because I have seen this happen and I have been that true friend waiting.
3. How does Eve’s story relate to bullying? Was she bullied? Did she bully? How would you explain her behavior? (perpetrator/bystander/victim?) Make sure you justify.
Eve's story relates to bullying because the elite group constantly hurt a couple of girls on purpose just to show them that they were superior. Eve sure was bullied at some point, she got picked on by the 'popular ones'. She also became a bully herself without her realizing it. She was invading the other girl's privacy and we all know that truly hurts. I would say Eve was both a victim and a bystander. Victim because she was being harassed in the beginning and a bystander in the end because she didn't try to stop the harassment towards the other girl when she could.
4.How did Eve’s need to belong affect the way she responded when another girl was being mocked? Why does her response still trouble her? How do you like to think you would have responded to the incident?
Eve was desperate to fit in and belong that she forgot that the girl they were mocking felt the same way she had felt when they bullied her. After thinking it over she realized that her actions had been despicable and she truly regretted it because she realized that she would feel horrible if they did that to her. I would like to think that I would have tried to take the diary from them and given it back to the girl because I would have known how it felt to be picked on and I wouldn't have wanted anyone to feel that way.
5. Eve concludes “Often being accepted by others is more satisfying than being accepted by oneself, even though the satisfaction does not last.’ What does she mean?
What Eve means is that you can't make people accept you, it just happens. She was trying so hard to be accepted that she forgot that it was not true acceptance and that it was just momentary, it was never for real. If you want people to accept you for who you are, then you should accept yourself first.
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